I need some advice..

Hey Guy's

So some of you know (not alot but a few) that i want a new hair style of course not something you would expect the direction i would go to but this is inportant. until a couple months i always had loooooong hair, like really long. beyond my shoulders and usually until half my back. or a little bit shorter. let me explain where i am going with this story,

Until a couple months ago i desided to change that and cut it short (a little bit above my shoulders) this was a huge change for how i looked and for the people around me and it looked pretty good. anyway my friends where pretty shocked but they liked it. i really liked the change in hair style and how i looked. anyway that pasted and it became normal like you would expect, and i wasn't searching for who i was in that time.

these last couple months i tried to figure out who i am and what i want to do and want to become as a person. it sounds weird but physical changes like your hairstyle is a big part of that because it changes the way you look at people. around two months ago or a bit longer i kinda knew where i wanted to go. the only thing i am scared of is my family and my friends. i want to cut it really short and that is a huge change in how i look. i am scared they will not like it and mabey i will be regected because of it (and i have no idea how my hairstyle will look)

i wanted to ask you all for help and advice for what i should think of this and if i can do it now or later or if they would except it or not. and if you have experience please share it with me that would be a huge help to be honest. (and if you have ideas for really short hairstyles feel free to share them ^_^)

anyway i hope some of you can help me with this because i am kinda stuck right now and feel bad for not doing it while otherwise i feel bad for mabey dissapointing people. (kinda weird how i care how people see me) but anyway i hope you all can help me with this and otherwise have an awesome time with your family these days ^_^

if you read it all trough thanks for lissening to me ^_^
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VikingWalker 2017-12-28 18:52:10

First of all: I think you should cut it shorter, but be sure you want to do it.
When I cut my hair short, I missed it at first... then I got used to it. Now it's almost the same length as before I cut it (2,5 years ago).
If you cut your hair really short (like 1-4 cm), you will probably miss your old hair at first, and the transformation may come as a shock to you, as well ;)

But I think I understand your thinking: you feel a little bad for not... realizing your potential to come closer to who you are on the inside by cutting your hair shorter, but you're scared how those close to you will react. It's a tough situation to be in. I think you should cut it. True, the hair you have is a part of your image, but the content of your heart is more important! The people close to you will handle the change, because they know behind the new, short hair is an awesome person!

And if you don't like it, don't cut it again for a while, and if you do like it... keep it short :)
Do you have the short-hair pictures I sent you a while back?

NyanaCreation 2017-12-28 18:52:10

don't worry i have thought months about this decision and i really want to try it again and if i don't like it i will find a way to deal with it ;) and yah i probebly will miss my old hair but that is always the case or it will be the thing that i love the new hear :p

i am happy you understand what i mean it really is trying to get closer to myself and i am glad you have that opinion and want to share it with me. i think you are right and people around me will except it but with difficulty for some i think. (and thanks for the compliment ^_^)

very true :p
and i am not sure i can look later if i still have them ;)

Jabicho 2018-01-04 02:38:44

Hi Nyana! :D
Oh, if there is any advice I can give you, it would be this:

It looks like you already made a decision :D, the only thing that you're waiting for, is to be sure about your friends and family approval. If that is worrying you, you could ask them what they think about a new heairstyle, and tell them about your idea, I'm sure they'll give you their opinion and you'll feel more calm about their impression :), just ask them if they'll support you, and things can go good.

Or, if you want to make it a surprise, really, don't worry, the good thing about hair, is that it doesn't matter if you get a bad, or it doesn't turn out as you wanted, it'll grow up again in a few time, and maybe it will turn just like you wanted, and you'll love it :D

With family is a bit harder, since they sometimes try to impose things, but try explaining them why you would like a new haircut, just as you wrote, it's part of you and getting to know yourself and your image, I'm sure they'll understand :D

NyanaCreation 2018-01-04 02:38:44

Thanks so much for the advice i am so happy you took the time to write this to help me (so thanks for that again)

i guess your right, i already know how my dad feels about it and he doesn't really like the idea because i had it before when i was little. he is the biggest infloance in my life (not in a bad way) but his opinion matters alot to me and i am scared he will not like this decision at all and isn't scared to tell me eather.

but i gues you are right it's for me and it's inportant that i do what i want to do and get to know myself better. thanks for the tips and help ^_^
i really appreaciate it.